tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post1267063920819476671..comments2023-08-27T05:58:25.187-07:00Comments on Freedom from Toxic People: Ns are WORSE than Spoiled Rotten ChildrenSoaring Dove is Letting Gohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16470811256241169554noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post-46158367295019757272011-04-03T11:03:04.512-07:002011-04-03T11:03:04.512-07:00Only in the Father can we have the embodiment of a...Only in the Father can we have the embodiment of a true parent that loves us unconditionally and is proud of our 'gifts'. . . . something we never will have with NP's. :) ~ BashWorld<br /><br />BashWorld, I couldn't agree with you more! <br />Peace to you and all God's Kids who have been deeply wounded in the KoN, who are facing the Fire, being Transformed by the Fire and are rising up from the Ashes w/a New Life, New Strength and New Gifts & Abilities.<br />We are not Victims of Nparents or any other N, we are God's Kids and that makes each one of us Warriors of Worth.Soaring Dove is Letting Gohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16470811256241169554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post-72829376046385839582011-04-03T10:55:02.618-07:002011-04-03T10:55:02.618-07:00Good news is, I didn't have to worry about los...Good news is, I didn't have to worry about losing their love because I never truly had it in the 1st place! ~ Mulderfan<br /><br />Mulderfan, I totally can relate to how you feel. How do we Grieve an Illusion? How do we get over a loss of something we never had from Nparents? How do we Grieve Nothing? How do we Grieve the Void? This is a Challenge for me. It is like going on the Battlefield to fight an Enemy that is cloaked in Invisibility. It keeps hitting us out of nowhere. We can't avoid it. Not sure where it is to destroy it. When we ask others about how to deal w/it, there is not much they can do because they haven't seen it either, so not much is known how to fight it. Where is the source of its power? How do we prevent it from hurting us? <br /><br />I am not sure I have all the answers to these questions. From experience all I know is that fighting it (the Absence of Authetic Love from Nparents, the realization that they don't really Love us, the Void, the Nothingness) makes it larger, stronger, and more powerful. We must Grieve the Loss of Nothing. In time, the Pain from suffering from "Nothing" becomes quite Something -- doesn't it. And that is okay. It is okay to grieve and morn "The Nothing". It is a Great Loss not to have the Love of a Parent, I can think of no Greater Loss except the Loss of a Child, the death of our own Child. In a way, not having the Love of your Parent, kills the Child within. We never out grow the need for the Love of our Parent, So do we do when it is impossible to have Authentic Love from a Nparent?<br /><br />When I realized that before I was the Nparent's Child I was God's Child, the Child within who felt destroyed by the Nothingness Arose from the Ashes. God intrusted the Biological Parents to take care of me, but when they failed me, they also failed God. Our Biological Parents are our Care Takers, but God is our Creator and thus is our Parent. We do have a Parent's Love because we have God's Love. We are Not orphans that must live the rest of our lives w/out feeling the Love of a Parent, because we have God's Love. We are God's Child. And God will fill the Void, "The Nothingness" with Authentic & Amazing Love. God transforms "The Nothingness". <br /><br />I am still in the Transformation Process. "The Nothingness" is no longer this huge unseen Enemy that I am powerless to defeat, but a pesky fly that comes around occassionally to irritate & bug me, and sometimes it can leave a sting, but that is okay because that is only a tiny wound and it heals much faster than before when "The Nothingness" attacked w/ razor sharp claws & enormous fangs. <br /><br />Eventually our deep wounds heal, the suffering and the pain ends and only the ugly scars of "The Nothingness" remain. The scars will be a Great Testimony to the Healing Power of God's Amazing Love. Jesus was wounded so that our wounds could heal. Christ suffered, so that our suffering will have an End. Jesus gave His Life, so that we can have a New One after we Rise Up from the Ashes of the KoN. Beauty for Ashes is what God give the Kids from the KoN. It is an Amazing Gift if we are open to recieve and accept it. Our Family of Orgin (FOO) is not found on Earth, but in Heaven. <br /><br />Those of us who were or are The Walking Wounded, who have deep wounds and scars, we are God's Child and therefore we are (((All))) Precicous in His Sights -- wounds and all -- we are Beautiful to God.<br /><br />It is my Prayer that we All feel our Heavenly Parent's Loving Spirit and arms around us and drawing us closer. Through God's Love we are Healed.Soaring Dove is Letting Gohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16470811256241169554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post-52978884680973384002011-03-26T05:56:58.969-07:002011-03-26T05:56:58.969-07:00So true Soaring Dove! Only in the Father can we h...So true Soaring Dove! Only in the Father can we have the embodiment of a true parent that loves us unconditionally and is proud of our 'gifts'. . . . something we never will have with NP's. :)BrashWorldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18016779928178959205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post-60864493884127560862011-03-25T14:52:32.516-07:002011-03-25T14:52:32.516-07:00My "loving parents" also happen to be th...My "loving parents" also happen to be the Ns in my life. They never gave me any gifts and if I happened to find or develop some for myself they took them away and convinced me I didn't deserve them. When I tried to defend my gifts they told me I was crazy and punished me with emotional abandonment. Good news is, I didn't have to worry about losing their love because I never truly had it in the 1st place!mulderfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500535934417551223noreply@blogger.com