tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post7968451678197891848..comments2023-08-27T05:58:25.187-07:00Comments on Freedom from Toxic People: Don't Feed The Big White ElephantSoaring Dove is Letting Gohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16470811256241169554noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post-41324370978320027902015-01-01T20:48:43.725-08:002015-01-01T20:48:43.725-08:00iTs amazing.. so many words that i just strangely ...iTs amazing.. so many words that i just strangely used to describe things/behaviours/happenings throughout marriage of 10+years to N [childrensfather]... <br />chameleon was one. 'elephant in the room'.. & 'IT' was the name i gave his 'illness' to help him get better.. as to not judge, but to aide in supporting him acknowledge & do work on fighting it.. <br />[it didnt work, 13+ years later.. im soon to qualify for divorce.. unfortunately trying to figure out how to parallel parent with him though while protecting my children from the covert lifechanging/society-damaging traits they too are picking up & showing more of regularly] <br /><br />thanks for the article... it helps remind me i am not alone or imagining iT! :/<br />THRiViNGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11893740509158539602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post-4194372618210179552015-01-01T20:46:35.940-08:002015-01-01T20:46:35.940-08:00iTs amazing.. so many words that i just strangely ...iTs amazing.. so many words that i just strangely started using to describe things/behaviours/happenings throughout marriage of 10+years to N [childrensfather]... chameleon was one. 'elephant in the room'.. & 'IT' was the name i gave his 'illness' to help him get better.. as to not judge but to aide in supporting him acknowledge & do work on fighting it.. <br />[it didnt work, 13+ years later.. im soon to qualify for divorce.. unfortunately trying to figure out how to parallel parent with him though while protecting my children from the covert lifedamaging traits they too are picking up & showing more of regularly] <br />thanks for the article... it helps remind me i am not alone or imagining iT! :/<br />THRiViNGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11893740509158539602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post-70989195138731041972011-04-03T13:48:41.954-07:002011-04-03T13:48:41.954-07:00PWC you are right about trying to warn others abou...PWC you are right about trying to warn others about Ns. They just don't understand until they go through the D&D, the D&D has the power to bring Clarity to the KoN and the Ns at the center of it.<br /><br />I must say that after surviving the KoN when someone identifies and warns me about a N I do Heed their Warning and I don't stick around for the D&D. I don't stick around to feed those White Elephants because I know eventually they turn on ya and attack. I just thank the other Normal Person for his/her warning and avoid contact w/the identified N.Soaring Dove is Letting Gohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16470811256241169554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post-82586548173723486842011-04-03T12:42:15.429-07:002011-04-03T12:42:15.429-07:00I love how you expanded on this! Remember. . . No...I love how you expanded on this! Remember. . . No more peanuts for the Elephants - they can take their circus and leave!! ;)<br /> <br />Your comment: "No matter how BIG of a Mess IT leaves behind, the Ns and the Enablers are in love with IT and will not get rid of IT." really resonates with me. <br />I've also had to go NC with EF, NSis, and am having my doubts about my SGBro. My bro knows there are 'issues' but his response is usually, "It is what it is. At some point you'll have to let it go and go back to talking to them". I've explained enough that I cannot acknowledge/accept/make nice with the 'elephant' due to the dynamics in the family. No more can I accept that level of 'crazy'! <br /><br />God has a plan for us all - to glorify Him - and that cannot be done when the idoltry of appeasing the Narc must come first.BrashWorldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18016779928178959205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2505388649159173103.post-48711516995209079012011-04-03T08:13:27.006-07:002011-04-03T08:13:27.006-07:00Nice post. It's strange but you cannot warn pe...Nice post. It's strange but you cannot warn people about an N - it's an experience you must live to realize.<br /><br />The Ns are very good at pretending everything is normal (even their abhorrent treatment of others) and appearing to be nice, pleasant, etc. - from the outside they do look fairly normal. From the inside, it's a different story, as you know.PWChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17908795804539211663noreply@blogger.com